As you start messaging members inevitably the time will come when they ask for your contact details. We strongly advise you to keep the conversation on our site until you are completely confident that you want to progress the relationship further. Below are a few reasons you should keep the conversation on the site:


We can help while the conversation is on here

Whilst you keep the conversation here you have our support. You can flag a conversation as abusive, spam, or report a profile to us. The moment you take the conversation elsewhere you lose that safety.


We give you the ability to block someone

If you give your social network details or telephone number to another member you lose the ability to block them if they turn out to be someone you no longer wish to speak to.


Get to know the person first

We use the 'friends' system to encourage members to get to know each other before they exchange contact details. If you let someone in to your social network they can find out a lot of information about you and you might not be comfortable with a stranger having access to all of this information.


Look out for warning signals

If someone seems overly keen to get your contact details then you should exercise extra caution. Take your time to get to know them and don't feel pressured to let them in to your private life.


Other usefull tips

Keep the conversation here until you feel comfortable with a member before telling them information such as your email address, telephone number, address, or social network details.If you are going to reveal your email address, why not setup a new email account rather than giving your personal email address away.


If you are going to have a telephone conversation with someone, make sure you block your telephone number so they can't see it. If you are unsure how to do this, contact your telephone provider.


If you are going to Skype with someone, create a new Skype account and don't use your real name.


Be extremely wary about removing your clothes or doing other things in photos or in front of your webcam. This could be used against you, even if you think you know the other person.


If someone makes a declaration of love from an early stage in the relationship, be wary. If someone seems too good to be true, they probably are.Requests for money or financial assistance are not acceptable.


You should never send money to anyone you meet online; just as you would never give money to someone you recently met in a pub or cafe.


If someone avoids giving basic details about themselves, but asks you a lot of questions about your own situation, consider their motives. Don't be afraid to ask questions so that you can build up a real picture of your potential match, and look out for any inconsistencies in the information they have shared with you. If you are suspicious, enter their name into an internet search engine, or report them to our customer care team.


If someone is genuinely interested in you, this will naturally develop into a decision to meet up with one another. If your relationship is solely via emails, text messages and phone calls and doesn't seem to ever develop into a face to face meeting, consider ceasing contact and focusing on other potential matches instead.


Always meet and stay in a populated public placeDo not accept a lift from your date


Tell a friend or family member who you are meeting, where you are going and when you will be back


Stay sober


Take your mobile phone and keep it switched on


Stay safe; don't leave your drink, food or belongings unattended


And last but not least have fun while meeting new people